Comparison as a Catalyst: Why I Love this Dirty Word

Learn how to use comparison as a tool for innovation, not self-criticism, and embrace the strength of your creative perspective.

When I was 14, I took fine arts classes two nights a week after high school (you can read more about my hilarious teenage art school misadventures here). Those classes were transformative for so many reasons. In that space, I knew exactly who I was. It gave me a quiet escape from the usual high school dramas. A place where I felt completely grounded. That sense of knowing, of being sure of myself, laid the foundation not only for my career as a fine artist but for everything that followed.

Of all the classes, figure drawing was by far my favorite. I loved the quick studies. Those fleeting 30-second sketches, the 60-second poses. But it was the second half of class, after the warm-ups, that I truly cherished. This was when we returned to a pose from the previous week and could fully sink into it. It was a chance to re-evaluate, make adjustments, correct mistakes, and really capture the essence of the model. That process of quiet and intentional revisiting and refining taught me so much about art and about myself as an artist.

Across the room sat a fellow student, a young girl with short dark curly hair. She was quiet, like me, rarely speaking to the other students, and she drew exclusively in marker. Her work left me in awe. Not just because it was exceptional, but because I knew I couldn’t do what she did. Even in the fleeting 30-second poses, she captured line and shadow with such confidence, translating the essence of the model onto paper with just a few bold strokes. She was phenomenal. It was one of the first times I felt that deep yearning to create the way another artist could. Watching her work was like watching an ultramarathon runner while knowing I couldn’t even break a 10-minute mile.

I secretly studied her from the corner of my eye, trying to catch the way she made decisions, hoping to see what she saw. But no matter how closely I watched, I couldn’t master it. I couldn’t get behind her eyes. 

I spent years trying to solve for this. Experimenting with different techniques and trying every variety of marker. But no matter how much my skills improved, I couldn’t capture what she saw. Her way of seeing and translating the world onto paper remained elusive to me. Eventually, I found my own approach with markers, something that felt authentic to my style, but even now, all these years later, it feels like it exists in the shadow of her work, her remarkable skill. 

And this is okay. 

My comparison never stole my joy. Instead, it was showing me something valuable. I wasn’t meant to see the world the way she did, that was her gift, not mine. By looking to comparison as a measurement of my ability, I discovered my own voice, my own way of translating the world onto paper. The process of watching her work wasn’t about inadequacy, it was an opportunity to learn what my eyes could see. It taught me to lean into my own interpretation, to trust my translation of the world. 

For professional creatives, comparison is not the thief of joy, but a necessary skill. A catalyst for innovation. It’s natural to view comparison negatively, as it can stir up feelings of inadequacy or doubt. But in the creative world, it serves a deeper, more constructive purpose. Along with simply measuring your skill, comparison allows you to study the work of those who inspire you, learn from their techniques, and gain insight into what resonates within your own creative process.

When used consciously, comparison becomes an essential tool for growth. It pushes you to explore new perspectives, stretch your skills, and reflect on your own unique vision. By observing what works in someone else’s art, design, writing, or music, you gain a greater understanding of how creative choices are made, how different voices express universal themes, and where your personal style fits into the broader artistic landscape.

It’s also important to remember that the comparison doesn't have to be a direct competition. But also, it can be and that’s okay too. Competition is not a dirty word. Comparison is not a dirty word. Comparison can be seen as an opportunity to identify strengths in others that you admire or are drawn to, elements that can help you refine your own craft. It encourages self-awareness, not self-criticism. For professional creatives, this kind of comparative thinking is what pushes boundaries, sparks new ideas, and leads to creative breakthroughs.

Ultimately, the key is not to compare with the aim of replicating someone else’s success (there is nothing worse than a shitty version of someone else's genius) but to use it as a guide to strengthen your own vision. Through this lens, comparison becomes a vital part of the creative process, one that fuels innovation, growth, and, paradoxically, a deeper sense of creative identity.

Creative Process Contemplations 

1. How can the act of comparing yourself to others reveal unique strengths within your own creative process? Where has comparison been a catalyst for your growth?

2. What artistic techniques or perspectives have you discovered by observing others that have led you to refine your own voice?

3. In what ways can comparison serve as a mirror for self-discovery, helping you recognize your own way of seeing the world?

4. How can embracing both your strengths and perceived limitations help you develop a more authentic, sustainable creative practice?

For more on how I reframe comparison, I invite you to check out these other posts and listen to this Joy is Now episode with the brilliant and hilarious Lisa Solomon. 

The Body of the Artist Part One

The Body of the Artist Part Two

Joy is Now with Lisa Solomon

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IN HARMONY

Music serves as a vital source of inspiration in my creative process. It acts as a catalyst, shaping my mood and sparking new ideas. Whether I’m diving into intricate details or dreaming big, the rhythms and melodies guide my thoughts and fuel my imagination. Each song carries its own energy, helping me navigate the complexities of the creative process. Music allows me to let go, surrender to the work, and listen. It is an essential companion.

Once a month, I eagerly share a song that resonates deeply with me. Music has been an unwavering companion in my life, consistently infusing immense joy into my days.

Back in September, we took the kiddo to see Green Day at Oracle Park. A full-circle moment, as it had been nearly 30 years since I last saw them live. The first time was at Lollapalooza in 1994 on Randall’s Island. Interestingly, Green Day also headlined alongside The Smashing Pumpkins that year (I’ll share my favorite TSP track in next month’s newsletter).

Seeing Green Day again all these years later was an experience, to say the least. They were phenomenal back then, and remarkably, not much has changed, except maybe the budget! This time, the show was a full-scale spectacle, complete with pyrotechnics, fireworks, and meticulously curated visuals. It had been ages since I’d been to a concert like that, maybe ever. The creative effort required for this tour was immense, and it’s something I’ll be diving into soon. The entire performance felt like a tribute to their legacy, a true retrospective of their career. It was nothing short of a triumph.

For a beautiful and comprehensive look at Green Day’s history, read MUSE community member Ryan Milford’s retrospective here.

Choosing a single Green Day song to highlight after witnessing them perform both Dookie and American Idiot in full is nearly impossible. But I’m going to try.

Tucked into the middle of their 1994 album Dookie is the song She—a track that didn’t quite grab me when I first heard it. It wasn’t until my kiddo became interested in the album a few years ago that I was struck by the song’s power. At its core, She is a feminist anthem. And a damn good one.

She screams in silence
A sullen riot penetrating through her mind
Waiting for a sign to smash the silence with the brick of self-control.

Are you locked up in a world that's been planned out for you?
Are you feeling like a social tool without a use?
Scream at me until my ears bleed
I'm taking heed just for you.

Sound familiar? Yeah. This one hits home for me.

If you haven't listened to She in a while, or ever, now's the time. Give it a spin and see what resonates for you. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Did it strike a chord, or was it a miss? Drop a comment and let me know how She lands with you.

My musical taste knows no boundaries; I effortlessly traverse genres like punk, folk, pop, hip hop, and grunge. These songs, whether they carry a touch of melancholy or exude the sweetness of candy, play a vital role in my creative journey. They set the rhythm and tone, whether I’m dreaming big, taking a bird’s eye view, or diving into the intricate details.

Subscribers to the newsletter receive an exclusive treat—a thoughtfully curated playlist that captures my musical selections throughout the year. If you’re a fellow wild creative soul yearning to master your creative process, I invite you to join our vibrant MUSE community by subscribing below. We have an incredible time together, navigating the weird and wonderful wilderness of creativity, all while savoring the beauty of great music along the way. 

Comment below and let me know what you are listening to these days. 

I hope you enjoy it too. Hit listen to get a taste.

And hey, some of you asked for all the In Harmony songs as a playlist. If that's you, here it is. 

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SOLAR TRANSIT

In Human Design, a solar transit shifts our energy as the Sun moves through Gates; use it to tap into fresh creative inspiration.

10-25-24

Gate 28

Gate of the Game Player

On October 25, the sun gracefully transits Gate 28, the Gate of the Game Player. During this celestial transit, you are presented with a unique opportunity for profound introspection and self-discovery. Gate 28 invites you to confront your fears, transforming them into valuable allies as you navigate the complexities of life. Instead of succumbing to challenges and adversity, this transit encourages you to approach life's ups and downs as an exciting adventure, akin to a game. 

This transit prompts you to reflect on the wisdom of your fears while not being held captive by their weight. Can you change your relationship with your fears? Can you view your fears as an informative guide instead of leading the path and pace of your journey? To learn from your fears, honor their messaging, but to not be held by them.

Gate 28 encourages you to reflect on whether you can use the wisdom of your fears to gather information instead of allowing them to lead the way.  To know that your life has purpose and to let go of struggle as a stand still and invite yourself to see the growth that can result. 

Here are some journaling prompts to deepen your understanding and engagement with this transit:

1. How has this fear influenced your decisions and actions in the past?

2. What lessons or insights might your fears hold for you?

3. What new approach can you adopt to view everyday experiences as exciting opportunities rather than burdens?

4. How might viewing your fears as informational impact your sense of purpose and your willingness to take risks in pursuit of your goals?

This transit is an invitation to dive deep into the potential insight of your fears. 

As you explore this gate, you'll emerge with a heightened sense of trust in your own

Authority and Strategy as guides. Embrace this transit as it propels you forward on your journey of self-discovery, supporting your sense of adventure along the way.

TAPPING PROMPT

Do you know about Tapping? It can be an effective addition to energy work and nervous system regulation. Many of my Mentorship clients include Tapping as part of their daily ritual. You can learn more about Tapping and how to do it by hitting the button bellow.

And of course comment with your questions!

EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique Tapping Prompt for this transit.

“Even though everything feels hard, I trust that I am learning what is important in my life. I trust the lessons brought to me, and I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Have a great week exploring these transits! Ready to learn more about your Human Design? Reach out and let me know! I’d love to guide you.

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SCORPIO SEASON

In astrology, planetary movements influence our energy and mindset; use them to explore your creative process within the cosmic cycles.

10-19-24 - 11-21-24

Scorpio Season heralds a time of deep introspection, transformation, and rebirth, as the water and fixed sign delves into the realms of the underworld, intimacy, and psychological depth. Ruled by both Mars and Pluto, Scorpio embodies the qualities of the investigator, the phoenix, and the psychologist, inviting us to confront our deepest desires and unravel the mysteries of our innermost selves. Associated with the 8th House, Scorpio Season emphasizes themes of transformation, personal power, and shared resources. Here, we are called to explore the depths of our psyche, facing our fears and embracing the process of death and rebirth. Pluto, the modern ruler of Scorpio, symbolizes the forces of evolution and regeneration, urging us to release what no longer serves us and embrace our inner wealth and power. As we navigate Scorpio Season, we are invited to embrace the intensity and pressure of transformation, allowing ourselves to undergo profound inner shifts and emerge stronger and more empowered than before.

Delving into the depths of your projects and endeavors, and uncovering hidden insights and uncovering hidden truths are themes of Scorpio Season. Embrace this transformative power by diving deep into your work, allowing yourself to confront challenges and obstacles with courage and resilience. Use this time to reevaluate your goals and priorities, shedding old habits and patterns that no longer serve you. Focus on cultivating authentic connections and partnerships, fostering trust and loyalty with your clients and colleagues. Welcome the intensity and passion of Scorpio in your creative pursuits, allowing yourself to explore darker themes and emotions with honesty and vulnerability. By harnessing the transformative energy of Scorpio Season, you can unlock new levels of creativity, productivity, and success in your work and business endeavors.

Here are some journaling prompts to deepen your understanding and engagement this season:

Embracing Transformation in My Creative Process
Scorpio Season invites deep transformation. Reflect on a project or creative endeavor where you feel stuck or challenged. What old habits, beliefs, or approaches are holding you back? How can you let go of what no longer serves you and allow space for renewal and growth in your creative practice?

Exploring Hidden Depths and Authentic Expression
Scorpio’s energy encourages us to dive beneath the surface. What hidden aspects of yourself or your creative work are you ready to explore? How can you bring more vulnerability and authenticity into your artistic expression, even if it feels uncomfortable or intense?

Uncovering Personal Power and Shared Resources
In astrology, Scorpio is tied to themes of personal power and shared resources. Reflect on how you harness your inner strength in collaboration with others. How can you cultivate deeper, more loyal connections in your professional or creative partnerships? How can these relationships help empower your creative journey?

Confronting Fear and Embracing Rebirth
Transformation often requires confronting fear. What fears or limiting beliefs have surfaced during this season? How can you use Scorpio’s energy of rebirth to face these fears head-on, allowing them to become catalysts for deeper self-awareness and creative evolution?

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